Tuesday, 10 de January de 2017 · IBCI
Every time I hear, read or discuss New Year Resolutions, the same question burns in my mind. “How is it possible that an external point in time: January1 can suddenly activate an internal mental-emotional process of change?"
The Wish—The Dream—The Reality
Around the world, the outset of a new year is considered as an opportunity for a new start, for new beginnings and new success stories.
Social media overflows with likes and shares of quotes, wishes, references, suggestions, even grand mandates for change.
On TV, glamorous shows are dedicated to "new year resolutions", simply to be ignored in a short while, as we watch the world news with painful impact, and are reminded of the social and economic changes we did or cannot manage over the many years in our lives.
It seems as these global events happen; the elements of enthusiasm, renewal, hope and joy are juxtaposed with world agony and fear that raises the stress level in us and our lives and contradicts and confuses our futures. Think about how we are emotionally challenged by political events in Syria, Europe and the USA
On a personal level, each new year brings dreams, wishes, hopes and promises to ourselves : "I will do things differently", "I will make it!", "I will make the decision", "I will make the right choice", "I will give a meaning to my life", "I will define in a better way my relationships", "I will increase my influence and manage to get the promotion I deserve" and on it goes.
With such thoughts in our minds, hearts and souls New Year’s Eve finds us dreaming for a better, more effective, upgraded edition of ourselves and our lives. Then the New Year arrives! This “external” new year, a time and date set by the calendar as a ready platform to think about new things, to dream, to wish, to make promises to self, as intentions only but not necessarily to succeed in achieving anything because hopes, wishes and dreams do not in themselves create reality. Resolutions stay as resolutions placing an added burden of guilt on the "I should list" The annual cycle continues year after year with good intentions but with few real concrete results.
Despite the wishes, dreams and the hopes, a new year has rarely proved in action to be the beginning of stated new resolutions…and change.
Why does this occur? Why are we not successful, give up or never start in the first place ?
Ancient Principles at Work
The Actions We Take
Alas! Let's stop promising ourselves or others, that we will implement a change that is not ripe enough within us because of a new year date on the calendar, or because of the exercised pressure from our manager or life partner. This is behaviorally premature, simply because it is mentally and emotionally premature.
What are the readiness steps we must take to achieve new goals in our reality and to avoid simply talking about them, once more while loading up the guilt sack ?
The steps above create the prerequisites for a starting point where possibility, hopes and dreams can become reality since the action will be generated from within (our intrinsic self).
It does come not from the outside world with a New Year's deadline. It is a change that we to which we can give authentic meaning in its right time and place. Every day is a new year's day where external triggers tagged by the intrinsic self can create conditions for change anytime, anywhere, in any way and for anyone. The fundamental questions are "am we paying attention?", "am I motivated to take steps to change"? and "am I willing to invest in a coach to maintain the momentum for change?"
In conclusion we learn:
Happy New Year whenever it starts for you!
Yiannis Koutsoumaris, Regional Vice-President Greece